I sat for hours listening to straight white men talk about how there would be college professors who would challenge my faith and ridicule me for believing in God, and how there would be roommates, friends, or coworkers that would pressure me into having sex — because having sex as a good straight Christian woman, as we all know, is the cardinal sin.I honestly think that most evangelical Christians subconsciously believe that consensual sex between men and women is worse than rape.And Starbucks and Barnes & Noble are nowhere (penned when he was only 21), has caught the attention of hordes of young women of my generation—particularly those who are evangelical Christians.In his book, Harris encourages young Christians to look beyond our Western culture's dominant paradigm for developing serial intimate relationships (namely, the process of "dating") and instead commit to "purposeful singleness." Romantic relationships, he suggests, should exist only as a means to preparing for marriage—what's commonly called "courting." Harris avoids that quaint-sounding term in , but the idea is implicit in his promotion of relationships that emphasize long-term commitment and the supervision of the community of believers over and against traditional dating, which he feels emphasizes self-centered emotional and physical satisfaction.
that’s part of the problem with my book.” The Washington Post followed up with a similar article in which a writer shares her story: I am a purity-culture success story: I am a heterosexual woman, a virgin until marriage, now with two small children and a husband I deeply love. Kissing ‘Waiting’ Goodbye I most certainly gave up dating out of fear. For those who were affected by the tidal wave of copies of books by authors who championed for waiting, what are we to do? We need to begin in safe, vulnerable conversations. Just because we are ridding ourselves of the anxiety of waiting doesn’t mean that we give up all forms of God-honoring waiting for certain aspects of marriage.Many felt the book admonishing them to repress their sexuality and miss out on healthy relationships in their formative years.Some go so far as to say the book caused them to miss their chance at a happy marriage. Well, it looks like he’s starting to change his tune a little. If you were a Christian teenager or young adult in the early years of the 21st century, chances are pretty good your youth group did a study on it.If you’ve been in ministry for a while, chances are equally good you led teens through a study on it.