Hi, I admire you're courage and fortitude, believe me, dating is complicated for everyone. He just operates with a different perspective (why should there be only one? You communicate really well, better than some w/o Asperger's! I didn't realise what was wrong until about 4-5 years ago.One girl I talked to on another site with Asperger's got married last year. I have found that it is easier to force myself to maintain longer eye contact if the light level is lower. In the past I would usually look away by looking down (floor).Few pieces of advice are more frustrating to a mild autistic, since “common sense” in dating involves intuitively knowing the assumptions that others will make about you based on the cues you give off through what you say and do—which, of course, is precisely what AS causes you to miss.Regardless of whether two people are meeting on a prearranged date or striking up conversation in a casual setting, each one’s emotional response is determined by the assumptions they make based on a multitude of factors, from body language, facial expression, and eye contact to manner of dress, choice of conversation topics, and tone of voice (the same principle applies to online dating, although the cues are different).
Imagine walking into the local pub with 50 strangers in it.
There is absolutely nothing about attachment-style, or any other neurodiverse relationship preference.
Additionally, there are detailed LGBT-options, but none of those are linked to neurodiversity so that seems unnecessary.
If you’re looking to start a conversation with someone, where do you start? ) Do you just sit there by yourself in hopes that someone will come up to you and starting talking?
Do you risk being offensive by asking someone if you can buy him or her a drink?