Some of my friends don't want to hurt their dates' feelings, so they pay her compliments, like, "You're a really great girl," or " I had a terrific time with you" -- and then they tell her they don't want to go out again. Some guys prefer to pay compliments to their date, but never hint that they're not interested -- and then they never call her.
I've been guilty of that myself, because it's hard to know how to tell someone you aren't interested without offending her! Can you give guys like me some advice about what's the right way to approach these situations?
by David De Angelo If you've seen the classic cult movie "Swingers", then you probably remember the part where the guys are discussing how long a guy should wait to call a woman after he's gotten her phone number.
The scene really hits home for a lot of guys because it gets down to a real-world situation that we all confront and ponder.
Every man you like doesn’t like you sufficiently in return. What you don’t get nearly as upset about are the many men who are very interested in you that YOU’RE not excited by.
So don’t beat yourself up about it as he may be just as into you – 3 days after all is not a long time and life gets very hectic.
Below are some "rules" that men will find are not overly difficult to follow, and that show consideration for the women they're dating.
Dear Rosie & Sherry, Even though I've been dating for several years, there's something about dating etiquette I'm not sure about. Does the timing of when a man asks for a second date send any kind of message to a woman?
When is a guy supposed to call a girl after a date to ask her out again? And what if a man changes his mind after telling his date that he'll call her?
Why does this happen to so many women when they're dating? Men often have a hard time sharing the truth about their feelings with women they've just met. It's fine to casually ask in a playful way, "I'm curious since you're kinda cute—are you dating anyone interesting right now? If you wait and wonder, you'll end up wasting your own time and energy.
Reason #2: He's Just Looking For a Fling If a man really likes you, but he is more interested in a casual encounter and senses you're not that kind of girl, he'll move on—partially out of respect for you (or his own selfish desires). Not calling you back was his way of letting you know where he’s at without having to say it directly.